Location: PuduPalli in Melatheru (West Street), Kilakarai.
Baith starts at 10am
Procession reaches as to the pall at 11am
nikkah ceremony starts 11.30am
Afternoon prayers at 12.35pm
Lunch at 1pm
Greeting the newly married couples happens separately on the men and women’s section.
The men may queue up to reach the stage to greet the grooms with an embrace or handshake, giving a chance for the photographer. Close family and friends usually kiss the groom on the forehead.
On the women’s section, theirs is hardly any resemblance of a queue, it is usually a free for all, but after sometime the brides are brought around to be greeted by the elders. Guests who are not used to this kind of melee are advised to be seated near the elderly ladies, or seek the assistance of the host.
(Preparation for bride and groom as described in the wedding ceremony section).
Guests arrive in their finest traditional wear
The men from the family and friends wear full-sleaved Oxford style shirts and white veshti/lungi (sarong), cap and slippers.
Women wear richly embroidered sarees, salwar kameez, dresses and jewelry.
Outstation guests may wear formal clothes that they are comfortable in.
It is advisable to leave valuable hand baggages, parcels, and gifts at individual place of residences rather than carry them around to avoid misplacing in the midst of the festivities.
Weather: since the function takes place outdoor, under specially erected shamiana tents, it is advisable to wear light to medium clothing. The weather in Kilakarai in December is pleasant; 27 to 32 degrees Celcius during day time, and 23-27 degrees in the night. A head cover during late evenings is recommended in view of heavy dew condensation.
Getting there: reaching Kilakarai is usually by car from:
the nearest railway station in Ramnathapuram (Ramnad) which is 17 km away (20 minutes drive).
Or the nearest domestic airport in Madurai which is 160 kms (2 two and a half hours drive).
Or the nearest international airport in Chennai which is 560 kms (10 hrs drive).
Or by bus from any of the above three cities.
Inside Kilakarai town, you can move around comfortably in small cars and swiftly by hired autos. People prefer to get around by walking which is much more pleasant and sociable.
People are more than welcome to give directions, and most of the locals are cock-sure about the locations.
Sit-down style dining in long rows of tables and chairs.
lunch is on a first-come first-served basis.
It is advisable for outstation guests to take the assistance of the family and friends of the hosts in getting comfortable/clean seats.
lunch is served on banana leaves (a light wash with the water supplied is recommended) and best when eaten with fingers (spoons and forks are not available easily at the nikah location).
Separate enclosures for men and women.
Children are free to play and move around on the campus as they wish.
Servants and car drivers have separate dining facilities with the same menu.
Separate dining for men and women.
Sometimes outstation guests and VIP might be entertained for lunch at the hosts houses (it is not impolite to enquire before hand where one would be dining).
Toilets are available on the campus (for emergencies only), it is recommended that one uses one of the toilets in the nearby houses, if one is not acquainted with Indian public toilets (melatheru people are highly obliging in this regard).
Ladies seating area.
Men’s seating area.
Servants and driver’s dining.
Refreshments and coffee/tea available during the function.
Good ventilated seating areas (open on three sides) and pedestal fans.
As the men and women’s sections are separate it is recommended that unless you are seated together in the men’s area, you agree to a point and time of rendezvous with your partner after the ceremonies.
Ample car parking spaces outside the venue (it is recommended that you confirm with your driver or escort, the point and time of rendezvous before getting dropped-off).
After the main nikah ceremony, close family and relatives will gather on the ladies section for the enjoinment of the couples and the milk and rice ceremony.
Family group photographs are usually taken during this time.
Photos and video clips will be uploaded on to the website.
Guests spending the night outside Kilakarai should keep in mind that all the festivities could go up to midnight.
Very close family go along with the groom to the bride’s residence and it is not impolite to go up to the couple’s room. To check out the facilities offered to the groom at the bride’s residence is in fact it is viewed as the right of the people who enjoy close proximity to the groom.